Something important about a personal boundary of mine


Hey, everyone! Hope you've been well!

How are you liking the Demo so far? I hope everyone's been having fun! 

Wanted to thank everyone who has played the game so far and/or left comments about it or even made streams/gameplays of it! This warms my heart and it means a whole lot; it keeps me motivated to create more games!

So, why am I making this post? Well, the reason is that quite a while ago I made a post regarding my personal boundaries on a certain topic but, since a lot of time has passed, a lot of people probably don't know about this.

I'm someone who identifies as graysexual, which is a part of the ace spectrum. Of course, being ace is a different experience for every ace, so even if many of us aces have similarities, not everyone is the same.

In my particular case, I consider myself to be sex-positive/neutral, so I'm not sex-repulsed and I think people who experience sexual attraction are super valid and free to experience their sexuality in any way they want as long as they don't do anything illegal and/or hurt other people. 

However, when it comes to my characters, I don't feel comfortable when others sexualize them/make NSFW content surrounding them. I'm totally okay when the comments are of a romantic nature (like "I want to marry them" or "I love them") or a mild physical nature (like "they're so hot" or "they're so beautiful" or "they're so handsome"), but when it goes beyond that and the comments get very sexual, that's where I draw the line.

When it comes to sexual things, I'm someone who's deeply, deeply personal about them. I enjoy some NSFW media (particularly comics) and think it's great that, nowadays, there are so many people who can make NSFW content that makes them happy. 

But because I'm very personal about sexual stuff, I'm not very comfortable sharing that part of myself with others unless they are very close friends or a partner. Since my characters are extremely personal to me, that translates to them as well: I prefer to keep any NSFW content/comments about them on my private circles.

If you have made sexual comments about my characters in the past and didn't know about this, please, don't feel bad. You didn't know! This is NOT me pointing fingers and accusing people of "being bad" nor anything like that. I think it's completely valid to be attracted to adult fictional characters in a sexual way (I myself am sexually attracted to some); it's just that I personally don't like people to express their sexual feelings about my characters publicly nor make NSFW content about them publicly. It's merely a personal boundary of mine.

Anywho, this has gotten a bit long but I appreciate it if you read until the end!

Once again, thank you for all the support you keep giving me and I hope you enjoy my current and future games! 😊❤️

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Pretty sure I'm also on the ace spectrum and I'm so glad you respect your own boundaries. So many people would never mention it and have to spend so much time dealing with that discomfort, and I admire you for speaking up. Also, this has nothing to do with anything, but do you make your own art?

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Thank you for the kind words, I appreciate it a lot! 💖

As for the art question, no, all the art from my games is art that I commission from different artists! ✨

Very jealous of your artists' skills

Also no worries! I'm a therapist friend and will always be here for you if you need me or my words :]

Haven't bought the game yet, debating how much I should pay. Any ideas? I'm next to broke though

Oh, the game is currently a Demo so it's free! The full version will be paid, though.

Also, if you're broke, please don't worry about giving me money! Spend it on yourself! ✨

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omg early and im glad you told us now! i really hope everyone will respect your boundary and i think its really reasonable how you feel! thank you again and keep up the amazing work <333

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Thank you so much! 💖🥰